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When I Grow Up….

As a child I never waited for the time when I would be an adult. When my friends were planning out their future lives, I was an active participant, but the actual growing-up part I wasn’t very keen on. Having been an adult for well over a decade now, I can say that my seven year old self was absolutely right – being an adult sucks (even though I had a really committed but extremely strict mother). I spent a few days thinking over it and this what I think is at the base of my not wanting to grow-up:

  • Public opinion – As a child you aren’t aware of or don’t care what the world around you thinks of you. Yes, there may be the occasional comment from an exasperated parent comparing you to some friend’s super obedient child, however, that’s not something you take personally. The focus at that moment is more on distracting the parent, and changing their train of thought, so you don’t get into more trouble.
  • Extreme Expectations – Yes, we do have to take responsibility and that comes with a certain amount of accountability. The difference here is as a child it’s only part of your life, but as an adult you’re rarely able to enjoy something because most acts are on the road to achieving something else. If you’re in your thirties and aren’t married, then your either ‘lost’ or working really hard on reaching some pinnacle of success that justifies your failure in settling down.    
  • Doing Nothing – Sitting alone and reading a book that you don’t have to read is considered a luxury. What happened to all the times our parents asked us to go do ‘something’ on our own. I want that undefined ‘something time’. Those hours when no one really cares what you’re doing (except if you make a major mess or it’s unsafe). Now, it’s a guilt inducing non-activity to do something undefinable. Since there’s so much we have on our to-do lists, if there’s any time spent doing nothing it means you’re slacking off. If you’re good at a sport it’s expected that you’ll, excel at it or get really fit, not just enjoy playing it for fun. If you dare to make it the latter, then it’s considered ‘me time’ and becomes a last priority thing!   
  • Wasting Time with People You ‘Don’t Like’ – It’s not cool to say ‘these are the people I want to spend time with and these people don’t make me happy’. You can do it, but it has to be PC and subtle or you end up with a the tag of ‘haughty or aloof’. It’s not done to reach out to people you like, because that makes you ‘desperate’. What about the simple act of going-up to a girl on the playground and saying ‘Hi, can we be friends?’. No reason or timing involved there. No rethinking our ‘approach strategy’ and the person approached questioning our ulterior motives.

Having said all the above, I have to add that there’s a lot of positivity out there and there are definite benefits to growing-up. (My husband prefers going to work to going to school, so obviously it’s not that same for everyone.) It’s to capture this positivity that I’ve decided to start a new experiment (this is the project I mentioned before) ‘The Escapist’. Recording and finding those no purpose moments in life through all forms of everyday fantasy daydreaming, travel, movies, books, art and aimless discussion. Join me on Escape a Little Everyday for the fun.

P.S. – I haven’t decided to actually shut down this blog, but I won’t be posting here for a while.

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Posted by on December 5, 2013 in Blogs and blogging, Defining Me, Growing-Up

 

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Finding My Way Back

This year, I really may have bitten off more than I can chew and the area that has been affected first is my writing. While my posting here was sporadic over the last six months, over the last month it has come to a complete halt. Problem is I have so many posts in my head, however, the longer I stay away, the easier it is to forget that this blog exists.

My plan for the new year is to use time management in all aspects of my life, not just the professional part, and to prioritize stuff.

Will 2013 be the re-start of my blogging days? I’m really going to try, so please don’t go away.

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Posted by on November 28, 2012 in Blogs and blogging, Randomness

 

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What Women Want

The reason I started this new blog is to link with women from all walks of life and at all ages.  I want to create a network of career women, SAHMs, working mothers, students, grandmothers, professionals, retirees…..the list just goes on.

Despite a clear intent, I seem to keep losing myself when it comes to post content, since I can’t decide whether a particular topic fits in with this blog or not. To resolve this confusion I’ve been trying to figure out the common factors that link women across the globe and across demographics. After a few months of thinking (that’s why I was so irregular with my blogging, I was busy with mind gymnastics) and extensively reading blogs by other women (and some blogs about women written by men), this is what I’ve come up with.

WHAT WOMEN NEED, WANT AND TALK ABOUT  (wonder what the men would think of this analysis):

  • Current Affairs – Yes, women are interested and tuned into the world around them. It’s their take on it that tends to be a bit different
  • Culture – Broadly covering travel, reading and the arts. Look around and see how many bloggers form online book clubs or culture clubs
  • Clothes – Not all of us are fashionistas (in fact surprisingly few of us are), however, most of us strive to look presentable even if we are just popping out for brunch, unlike most men (sorry the gender thing was too true to be avoided here)
  • Work – In today’s world all of us have a set of goals to achieve and this defines the work we do. It maybe a career in the traditional sense or a creative out of home business. Some of us even home-school our kids (which is frankly the toughest job ever, in my opinion). At the end of the day, we all want to look forwards to our weekdays and not just the weekends and having a job and a work environment that adds value does this
  • Family and Friends – Most women mention their families or friends in at least 25% of their posts (this is just a rough statistic, I don’t have the paper work to back it up). Mothers, fathers (the daddy’s princess thing seems to be true), best friends, children, husbands, work friends
  • The Social Circle – For most guys this means flopping on a couch with your best friends and watching sport. Women will most probably make it an intimate gathering for eight with wine, nibbles and a special projector system to watch the match of the hour. We rely on our social circle to de-stress and yes, we love gossip (non-malicious, obviously). Why do you think we go on play dates
  • The Dream – This could be anything and will most probably be cherished and shared with a chosen few, at least till it’s achieved. I know you all have a secret one (we’ll discuss this in another post)

So this is what my posts are going to cover, maybe not all of it, but definitely most of it. I’ll try and focus on creating a harmonious whole from the supposedly conflicting personal and professional areas of my life. Wish me luck.

Your Thoughts:

Did I get the list right? Would you be interested in reading and discussing the above? Most importantly, will you hang out with me? I’m a shameless friend groupie.

 
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Posted by on May 7, 2011 in Blogs and blogging, Defining Me

 

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